By Ari Liakeas

Anyone who has been or is in a long-distance relationship (LDR) will know that it is not without its challenges. Sometimes our work takes us away from home regularly, which can be tough. Perhaps you are in love and want to be with each other, but there is a cross-continent situation, or you are on different sides of the world from each other? Whatever the case, it can be a struggle to maintain an intimate connection.  

The recent pandemic has certainly changed how people connect, meet, communicate and now even date. I met my current partner while in lockdown in Greece and now live in a country I had never even thought of visiting before. 

A wonderful silver lining, right! A long-distance relationship can be exciting as well as challenging. It involves lots of planning about how you will share quality time when you see each other again after a period of separation. Perhaps it even helps keep the relationship fresh and the spark alive. The anticipation of seeing each other can bring its own magic. 

The Pros And Cons Of LDRs

Challenging or exciting, like in any relationship—long-distance or not—it is vital to learn about the other person and spend fulfilled, quality time with them.

Let’s look at some of the more common aspects of the pros and cons of a long-distance relationship.


  • Trust building
  • Deeper connection and not just physical
  • Greater appreciation of time spent together

LDRs allow us to keep our freedoms as individual people and offer the potential to have a stronger and more profound emotional bond with our partners.


  • Lack of touch 
  • Loneliness
  • Potential to drift apart 

If you can’t see each other in person regularly, intimacy may feel awkward when you get together, and you might begin to just feel like you are friends rather than in a loving, committed, sexual relationship. 

So, while they both have their merits, it depends on the people involved, whether you can make it work or not. 

Keep The Spark Alive While Separated

As humans, we are primarily tactile and gain pleasure from exploring our sensual side with our partners. Of course, the most challenging aspect of a long-distance relationship is the lack of touch. How do we share intimacy and bring our partner pleasure and sexual satisfaction while being so far away from each other?

Well, thanks to modern technology, video calls are a great way to share some intimate moments with your other half. So, why not spice up both of your days a bit more by sending your partner a sexy little gift in the mail? Or send them a gift voucher for their local adult store, then do a video call, go sexy shopping together and maybe watch them enjoy their purchases.

In a past long-distance relationship, my lover knew I would be away for a few months and gave me some money to spend on a special day. He suggested that I go have a massage and spoil myself in an adult store, and then we could have lots of fun with everything I brought back!

It felt great! I felt like an empowered, sexy goddess that day, and it was so fun sharing all the naughty items when we were back in each other’s company again. The experience of being sent on this intimate mission added a lot of fun, spice and spark to our relationship.

Bring On The Toys!

Looking for ways to keep your relationship fresh and sexy? Introducing toys into the mix can bring you closer or cheekily make your partner’s day at work more interesting, even if you live together! (oooh, naughty!)

A great selection of sex toys are now available with remote controls or remote enabled apps that you can control via your phone. These allow us to send our partners (or vice versa) pleasure from anywhere in the world. Now isn’t that an exciting, titillating thought!

Here are some of the top toys on the market today.

For Her 

  • We-Vibe Nova 2: App-controlled, multiple vibration settings, moves with body movements and great feeling silicon material, USB rechargeable (my personal favourite) 
  • OhMiBod Esca 2: App-Controlled Rechargeable Wearable Love Egg Vibrator USB rechargeable, wifi long-distance controlled, soft silicone material 
  • Desire Luxury Panty Vibrator:App-Controlled Rechargeable, Beautiful lace panties with satin ties included, 12 levels of intensity vibrations

For Him

So remember, long-distance can be exciting if we use our imaginations to keep it fresh, intimate and sexy. There is a whole world to explore with your partner to keep loneliness at bay and make your bond even stronger. Have fun!

Featured image by Anna Shvets