By Iolee Anagnostopoulou
When it comes to sex talk, squirting is still sort of a taboo, despite its increased popularity. Whether you’ve listened to your girlfriends talk about it, seen it in porn movies or experienced it yourself, there really isn’t much information available as to what it is, how and why it happens.
I personally fall into the percentage of women who haven’t experienced it, and I must admit, I was quite confused when I first saw it. Is it real? Why doesn’t it happen to me? What is it exactly? Are female ejaculation and squirting the same thing?
Understandably, these might be kind of awkward questions to ask your mother. Plus, the subject is a bit more complicated than it looks. Here’s everything you need to know about squirting and female ejaculation.
Are They Legit?
Women release various types of fluids during sexual arousal and orgasm, which can be categorised in three phenomena: squirting, female ejaculation and coital incontinence (involuntary urination during sex). So yes, they’re all legit occurrences, and they do happen to some women during sex, but they’re differentiated by the type, source, quantity, and expulsion mechanism of the fluid.
What’s the diff?
To date, whatever research has been done on the matter is either too old, small, or controversial to be representative.
However, in a 2014 study researchers performed pelvic ultrasound scans in seven women after voluntary urination, during sexual excitation and after squirting. The results showed bladder emptiness after peeing, bladder filling during sexual stimulation and bladder emptiness again after squirting. Biochemical analysis also showed that the fluid samples were almost identical to urine.
So is it pee then? Not exactly. Squirting fluid is a combination of urea, uric acid, creatinine, and sometimes prostatic‐specific antigen. This colourless and odourless liquid is released–often in large quantities–from the urethra, usually following G-spot stimulation or G-spot and clitoral dual stimulation.
Similarly, the ejaculate secretion also exits via the urethra, but it’s thick and milky, and it’s released from the Skene’s glands during arousal or orgasm–seeing as the G-spot, urethra and Skene’s glands are located around the same area. It consists of glucose, fructose, and prostatic acid phosphatase, which makes it similar to semen, just without the sperm.
Coital incontinence, on the other hand, can occur before, during or after vaginal intercourse and is classified into penetration and orgasm forms. Stress urinary incontinence is implicated in penetration incontinence while bladder/detrusor overactivity is orgasmic incontinence. How much fluid can be discharged during squirting or ejaculation? Again, the volume varies widely from vulva to vulva, and can be anywhere from 40ml to 1250ml–which is the world record!
Can All Women Squirt Or Ejaculate?
The answer to that is still pending I’m afraid. The matter is rather complex, as some women can’t do it, while others can’t help it. Estimates of women who ejaculate range from 10% to 50%, but some experts believe that all women can ejaculate, just most don’t know it since the fluid can flow backwards into the bladder, without exiting the body.
Another theory states that the bigger the Skene’s glands, the more of a ‘squirter’ the woman is. Ultimately, each body has a different sexual response, and there are many physiological and psychological factors involved.
How Do I Make It Rain?
Now that you know that squirting and female ejaculation aren’t a myth, you probably want to experience them yourself–if you haven’t already.
Although there is no guarantee that you will squirt or ejaculate, exploring the possibilities is totally worth it. It’s like nipple orgasm–we all have nipples, but only some people experience climax from their arousal.
Nevertheless, trying out the techniques and experiencing new sensations is irresistibly exciting, whether you do it alone or with your partner.
Start by prepping your space so that you’re fully relaxed. If you do end up being a first-time squirter, it could be anything between a leak and a tsunami of love! So it’s best to minimise your cleanup worries by laying some towels, waterproof throws or doing it in the bathtub.
Next, set the mood and get turned on. Candles, sexy music, lube, sex toys–whatever rocks your boat. Remember, proper foreplay and excitation are key factors.
Then stimulate your clit and G-spot–about two inches in along the front vaginal wall–with firm, ‘windshield-wiper’ moves.
If your sexual partner is engaged, positions like doggy style and bouncing spoon provide a good angle for G-spot stimulation and are likely to make it rain.
You might feel like you need to pee before squirting, in which case just keep going!
And if you didn’t, well keep practising!
Our bodies are full of mysteries that we have yet to entirely understand and explain.
Bottom line, both squirting and female ejaculation are 100% real and absolutely normal, but they are two different occurrences that only some women experience.
Whichever category you fall into, there’s nothing to be self-conscious about. However your body reacts to sexual satisfaction, own it and enjoy it!