Continuing our insights into how we can become mentally stronger individuals…
Check Part One here.
6. Overcome Your Inner Critic
Thanks to a little something called the self-fulfilling prophecy, being your own worst critic is one of the worst things you can do to yourself. Those negative thoughts only set you up for failure, so instead of judging and criticizing yourself and expecting the worst outcome of a situation, try to force yourself to believe that you’re going to succeed in anything you do.
However, if those pesky negative thoughts persist, take a minute to really think about them, and odds are you’ll realize that some of them are completely irrational.
7. Be Grateful
No matter how hard we try to avoid it, this beautiful thing called life often flings some serious s**t our way, and we simply need to roll up our sleeves and deal with it.
But here’s the difference between people who possess great mental strength versus those who don’t: Mentally strong people deal with their sorrows and problems gracefully and focus on what they’re grateful for, whereas those who aren’t wallow in self-pity… which is never, ever productive.
So, to be a mentally stronger person, work on training yourself to practice gratitude for all of the wonderful things in your life, and you can do it by something as simple as keeping a little notepad next to your bed and writing down three things you’re thankful for before going to sleep. As cheesy as it sounds, it’s one of the most effective ways to be a stronger, happier person.
8. Be Optimistic
People who are optimistic are more committed to their goals, are more successful in achieving their goals, are more satisfied with their lives, and have better mental and physical health when compared to more pessimistic people.
But even if you’re not naturally the most optimistic person in the world, here’s a scientific way to fake it ’til you make it.
Ever heard of something called the Facial Feedback Hypothesis? First suggested by Charles Darwin, it states that facial movement can influence and alter emotional experiences, just as emotions cause facial expressions. This means that emotions and facial expressions essentially operate in a feedback loop – so, based on this, simply forcing yourself to smile and laugh can create an emotional shift and take you from neutral or even gloomy to happy!
Try it out. It won’t hurt.
9. Don’t Worry About Pleasing Others
Many of us tend to try to please and seek the approval of others in the things we do, even if we say we don’t care what others think. This is a natural biological defence mechanism to protect us from the emotional pain of rejection. However, living your life as a people-pleaser won’t make you truly happy since you won’t be living an authentic life the way you want.
Mentally strong individuals have the guts to express how they truly feel and act how they want to, even if it isn’t popular with everyone else. It won’t happen overnight, but try doing and saying things you actually want. If you don’t want to hang out with your friends that night, tell them. If you feel like singing along to “Call Me Maybe” when it comes on at the bar, by all means, sing your heart out. That stuff takes courage, and trust us when we say people will respect you for actually doing what no one else can do.
10. Don’t Be Afraid Of Pain
As we all know, the things we want in life don’t magically appear in front of us, and sometimes, we need to really work for those things. And we’re talking blood, sweat, and tears. That’s why only the mentally strong achieve what they want – they’re willing to endure that pain, explains an article in Entrepreneur.
As Teddy Roosevelt once said, “Nothing in this world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty.”