By Vaila Erin Bhaumick
My journey through womanhood has been full of surprises. I can’t decide whether that’s because other women are ashamed to share their journeys or simply just want to spare us the gory details. Maybe it’s sometimes better not to know?
But here’s why the case for being prepared for early menopause and, in fact, all women’s health issues is vital: to recognise and observe what’s going on with your body gives you more power, more solace and the possibility to seek answers and support. Early menopause is a shock, but you’re not alone.
It’s a shock, most of all, because often women don’t know what the hell is going on with their bodies, especially when it’s unexpected or outside what is considered ‘the norm’.
What The Hell Is Going On With My Body?
In 2018 I was diagnosed with endometriosis after years of wondering precisely: ‘what the hell is going on with my body?’. I knew something wasn’t right, but the symptoms were so varied it was impossible to pinpoint the cause. I finally got my diagnosis leading to loads of research, but more importantly, understanding.
When I recently discovered that endometriosis is linked to early menopause, teamed with a family history, I didn’t want to be surprised and perplexed by the symptoms. I decided to keep a closer eye on some of my newer symptoms, like night sweats, hair loss/dryness, memory problems, breast tenderness, anxiety, and depression.
Buckle up—here come the details because this woman ain’t shying away from women’s health talk no more.
But I’m Way Too Young…It Can’t Be Menopause!
It can and does happen to women in their 20s and 30s. When menopause occurs before 40, it’s called Premature Menopause and before 45, Early Menopause. Certain health conditions can cause or contribute to this early onset, including some autoimmune disorders, and surgeries like hysterectomy or ovary removal will bring it on. Sometimes doctors don’t know why it happens, which can be frustrating and agonising.
Before acknowledging the physiological and psychological symptoms of early menopause, I think it’s important to talk about the emotional fallout. If you had plans to become a parent, it can be as if a ten-tonne truck has fallen on your heart. Organisations such as The Daisy Network or Early Menopause can offer support through community and connection to those going through this. Conversely, for some women, losing the ability to become pregnant can feel liberating.
Surprising Symptoms Of Early Menopause
Most of us have heard of hot flushes, night sweats and periods disappearing, but there are other symptoms you might not clock as menopausal, especially if you’re in your 20s or 30s. And actually, some might make you feel as if you’re pregnant, like sore boobs, weight gain, tiredness or a shift in moods (and your periods stopping could cause the mind to go there). It’s no joke and a big ball of confusion!
Aside from the usual symptoms, there are some ‘wild card’ ones to look out for that might be a clue to unlocking what’s happening with your body. Changes in body odour (I can vouch for this one!), tinnitus, spatial awareness changes, pins and needles in your extremities, or a sensation that something is crawling on your skin can all be classed as weird symptoms that get overlooked.
Possible Treatments For Early Menopause
HRT is the most common treatment for menopause, and it can relieve many symptoms, allowing you to ‘get on with life’. But, as with all medical treatments, it’s not for everyone, and some women reject it due to its associated risks.
Many women choose the lifestyle and diet route for managing symptoms. Personally, I’m an advocate for this as it has helped me a lot. Avoiding foods that exacerbate symptoms or adding foods that relieve them can feel empowering and hopefully keep you healthy. Doing weight-bearing exercise is advisable, too, to prevent osteoporosis. Supplements can alleviate symptoms—but remember, everybody is unique, and it’s sensible to take professional advice and always listen to your body. If something feels off, change it and try a different tack.
Help! I Just Want To Feel Supported!
I repeat—you are not alone! Reach out to other women and advocate strongly for yourself with medical professionals. For too long, we have swept women’s health under the carpet and made it a taboo. Talk to friends and colleagues, join a support group or women’s circle and seek holistic solutions if possible. Menopause is more visible now, and early menopause is something many women go through.
I believe it’s essential to claim autonomy of our bodies, to get to know them and observe them so that we’re not panicking and wondering, “what the hell is going on?”. Only then can we begin to properly care for our bodies.
Tap into beautiful networks of women who are together in this. We are not alone; if menopause comes early, late, or right on time, we can prepare and support each other.