By Conal Morrison
Gender and Gender Identity are terms that have been thrown around a lot in the past decade or so and can be confusing for some. It’s important we understand their meaning and the different genders that many people identify as. It’s perfectly okay and completely valid to be and identify as whoever you wish to be.
Unfortunately, it can be scary to feel different or like you are not understood, which is why understanding yourself and others as they try to figure out where their identities lie is vital.
What Does Gender Mean?
The first thing to note is that gender and sex are not the same thing. A persons sex is almost always based on biological factors like their genes or hormones. But a persons gender is how that individual chooses to express their internal identification externally. According to Medical News Today, “gender is a social construction that people typically describe in terms of femininity and masculinity”.
However, gender is not binary; it is not a 1 or a 0. Some people may identify as a man or a woman; others may identify as being somewhere in the middle or as neither or even as both.
Many different genders fit across this spectrum, and there is still some debate around the total number. Some say there are 4 overall genders, with all others being a mix of two or more. The primary genders are masculine, feminine, common and neuter.
Whereas others say the spectrum is forever growing, and so no number can be applied or given. Whatever your take on it is, and wherever you feel that you fit, you are valid, and there will always be people out there willing to support you and know you for who you are.
What Is Demigender?
Demigender is an identity that describes feeling somewhat connected to specific or multiple genders or identifying partially with a gender. According to the LGBT+ Wiki on Fandom, “It is an umbrella term for other identities, such as demiboy, demigirl, deminonbinary, demiagender, demifluid, and more.”
It is also seen as being a transgender and a non-binary identity. However, this does not mean that all demigender people identify with either of those labels.
A few identities come under the demigender banner, as I mentioned before, so let’s take a closer look at some of them. Someone who identifies as a demiboy somewhat identifies as a man or as a masculine individual. Demigirl is an individual who identifies partly as a woman or as someone with feminine traits. Deminonbinary is the term used by people who may partially identify as nonbinary (A gender identity neither masculine nor feminine).
What Are The Pronouns Of A Demigender Person?
Depending on which gender or genders they identify with, two demigender people can have completely different pronouns. A demiboy may identify as He/They, while a demigirl may identify as she/they.
When you meet someone new, the best thing you can do is just ask them what their pronouns are. I promise you it’s not an offensive thing to do, and in fact, most members, if not all, of the lgbtq+ community will be thankful that you asked! And if you do accidentally misgender someone you meet, don’t worry. Just be polite, apologise and ask them what their pronouns are. As long as you haven’t done it to be offensive or hurtful, most people will be more than happy to help you gender them correctly.
I Think I May Be Demigender; What Do I Do?
Breathe. Then, take some time to explore your own gender identity and yourself as a person. Spend time getting to know yourself, and if you think demigender is the right fit for you, then awesome! It can also help to talk to other people who identify the same way or similar to how you do. Here are a couple of hashtags you can use to find others who identify as demigender:
Remember, take your time and find the identity that really clicks for you. No one but you knows exactly what you’re feeling, so it’s essential to listen to yourself and express yourself however you feel comfortable doing so.
Someone I Know Is Demigender; How Can I Help Them Feel Seen And Accepted?
Be supportive! Take the time to learn about what it means to be a demigender person, and support them however you can. Ask them what their pronouns are and be an ally.
We all want and need to be understood for who we are and to be able to freely express ourselves. So be open to demigender or any other gender identity and learn with them so you can help anyone else you might meet.
Accepting someone as they are and helping them express their true selves is how a healthy society should function.